Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Sex and Single Women in the City

I went to see the Sex in the City movie a few weeks ago, and was really disappointed. If you haven't seen it - you may want to stop reading - spoilers ahead!!! I liked the story lines with Charlotte, and Miranda. I thought Samantha could have had a happier ending - maybe her and Smith move back to NY so she can go back to being her? But it was believable. I thought Carrie's storyline was just wrong. I mean, she has been with Big for more than 10 years at this point and she is in her 40s. So when he calls her at the library - I don't think she would react like she did, and she certainly wouldn't have stomped over and bashed him with her flowers. I really don't think she would. My scenario would have been that he makes that call and she says, "Get over yourself buddy, put on your big-boy tuxedo and get your ass in here right now!" And he would have been like, "oh yeah, ok, you're right". I mean seriously, she would have taken that crap from him, I don't think so.

I doubt any of my close friends would ever handle things that way. Now that I am in my 40s, I know what I want, and how I want it, and I think I am pretty good at voicing it. And after being with my husband for 14 years, I would never let him get away with that (not that he would try). I don't think Carrie, in her 40s, and with big exclusively for 10 years, more than that overall, would either.

But I am not single. And none of my close friends are single. I have a few friends from work who are in the 40s or 50s and single. And I had this discussion with one of them last week. She TOTALLY disagreed with me. She loved the movie and thought it was perfect that it happened like that. She said she knows women who have been in long-term relationships that ended in similar fashion. I pointed out that Carrie ends up marrying him in the end (which again, if all the previous had happened, I don't think she would do). And my friend said that was totally believable.

I guess I am lucky to not know. But what do you think?

1 comment:

Anastasia said...

You are TOTALLY right!!! I had the same exact reaction to the movie and to that scene specifically. I mean really, would you just drop the phone? Wouldn't you ask a few more questions and try to talk it out? And then when they both got out of the car, she doesn't even listen to him (he's trying to go back and actually marry her) but just hits him in the head with the flowers. Come on, she's not 16 for goodness sake. I just don't think a grown woman would do that (especially when they've been together on and off for over 10 years).

After I saw the movie last month, I was equally disturbed and wrote a post called "Should Selfish Women Have Children?" in jest of course! :)

Love your post on this!